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November 27, 2005
Teenagers
So, does anyone have any good advice on raising teenage girls??? Cuz I really need some right about now! OMG, I'm really at the end of my rope with my 13 year old and that is the sad part folks, she is only 13!! What am I going to do when she's 16????
My biggest problem right now is her disrespect for me and her father. In many ways, she's a good kid. She's well behaved for others, especially my mother for instance. Actually, my mother walks on water as far as she's concerned. I, on the other hand, am the scum of the earth! And I mean that. She won't listen to me, she does as she damn pleases and the more she can upset me, the better she feels about herself.
I guess it's the whole respect issue cuz I just don't like how she has NO, and I mean NO respect for me or her father. It's not that she yells and swears at us and tells us to go H*ll or anything like that, but take today for instance. She had a friend over last night and this girl seems to be a nice girl. I asked them this am if they were coming to church. Her friend doesn't go to church, but I heard her say to Devon, "It wasn't on my agenda, but if you want to go I'll go." Now, usually Devon goes to church with me on my weekends off unless she is out to her grandmother's. She usually never gives me any trouble, she likes to go as does her 4 year old sister. But today, oh no, she was going to stay home. So, this meant her 4 year old sister didn't want to go either. Started giving me a lot of trouble, wouldn't get dressed etc. Then, Devon has the nerve to ask me for money to go to the movies this afternoon. (She had $50 on Friday, but decided to spend it all in one whack at the dollar store) I'm like, "I don't think so young lady!" Oh, I was so mad I stormed out of the house and went to church and then spent the afternoon with a good friend. I didn't come home until almost four hours after church was over!
It doesn't seem to phase her though. She still acts like she's the queen and too bad I don't like it kind of attitude.
Now, my friend told me I should tell her I expect her to go to church on the Sundays I go (I work every other Sunday)and if she has a friend over they are expected to go as well. They don't have to participate or even believe in the things they talk about, but she will go. And just make that the rule. (The other difficult thing for me too is that my husband is not a church goer and whenever we discuss it, he says he's not going.)
I also told my husband I'm all done trying to discipline her, it's up to him and I told him some things she is no longer allowed to do for a while, like visiting my mother and having friends over. But...he's not very good at this stuff, but I told him I would stay out of it and let him deal with her for a while.
It's the attitude that is driving me crazy!!! She just doesn't care how much she upsets me or how bad she makes me feel. I bend over backwards for this kid and my father told me once a LONG time ago, I'd be sorry for all I do for her and I think he was right!
It's just I wanted her to have things and do things I never got to do as a kid. I wanted, as they say, a better life for her. Not that mine was God awful cuz it wasn't, but you know what I am sayin'???
So, I don't know, I have said very little to her tonight, I'm not ignoring her, but I only talk to her if I have to kind of thing, but she smirks and acts all big and smart like and I literally just want to smack her! I mean, I don't remember being like this at her age. (Although I did have a bad time with my own mother growing up and I so wanted to not re-experience that with my own.) Everyone says, "Pick your battles." Well, I don't really know if these are battles or not or if it's just her attitude in general I can't seem tolerate.
The other thing that drives me crazy is she will NOT listen to me. No way! She'll listen to my mother or my friend Kim or anyone else for that matter, but me, forget it! I think she deliberatley does not listen to me just to get me going. To me that is having NO respect for your mother and I honestly don't know what I have done to deserve this kind of behavior/treatment from her!
UGH! Just had to get that off my chest...
Posted by tracey at 08:16 PM | Comments (0)
November 26, 2005
Just some random thoughts...
So I spent the day cleaning, reorganizing, doing laundry and cooking. Then I spent some time on the computer updating my web home with some Christmas graphics. I redid my main page and I really LOVE this pic!
See it here.
Now I am just looking for the right scripture for the season to put somewhere on it as well.
It snowed a little today and was quite cold. Our last cord of wood arrived, but it's so nice to know we have it, just because we have such a long cold winter ahead of us!
The girls enjoyed a trip to the rec center today with their Dad. I spent a few hours visiting with a good friend last evening. We talked and laughed. I was trying to think how long we've been friends and I think it's been about 15 years now! It's funny too because she has the same name as my oldest and dearest friend of over 30 years, Val!
Well, nothing too much to blog about tonight. Off to read some more and than hopefully sleep without having strange dreams, like for instance, Captain Kirk! I'm not even a Star Trek fan!!!!
Posted by tracey at 09:50 PM | Comments (0)
November 24, 2005
So full
you could roll me all the way home! I am home now, but you know what I mean? Right?
Turkey and all the fixin's and gosh it was all so good. Afterwards there was pumpkin pie, chocolate cream pie, cake and whipped cream and pumpkin whoopie pies!! God, I couldn't eat another morsel!
We went out to Mom's like we do every year. She loves having everyone over and wouldn't think of doing dinner any where else but her house! If I ever won the lottery though, I'd build her a really nice kitchen and HUGE dining room so she'd have more room. Their old farm house is a bit cramped, but it gets us by!
My two brothers were there, my oldest one being anti social as always. I honestly don't know what ales that boy, but something sure does. I keep praying, that is all I can do.
We had a very nice time though and now I'm ready for a nap! It feels much later than it actually is, but I think I am still going to go to bed early and finish up my book.
And fall asleep after the first two pages! LOL
Posted by tracey at 07:09 PM | Comments (0)
November 22, 2005
Happy Birthday to Me!
Well, today's my birthday, 35 years young! It is time for me to start lying about my age! Ha! I never thought I'd see the day!!! LOL
It's been a nice day minus the crazy day at work, but my co-workers did get me some flowers and then hubby surprised me with a beautiful bouquet of roses, all different colors! He also made a great supper tonight and Devon made some pumpkin pies and then did the dishes for me!
So, relaxation and off tomorrow to run errands and do some last minute shopping before turkey day!
Posted by tracey at 08:01 PM | Comments (1)
November 18, 2005
I am
You are Rerun!
Which Peanuts Character are You?
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November 16, 2005
Finally!
Well, finally, after two winters of sore throats, coughing and throwing up and not being able to sleep at night because she can't breathe, Hannah finally has an appointment with a ear/nose and throat doctor to see about getting those HUGE tonsils of hers out!!! I am hoping and may even insist he do it! I know they are the reason for all of the above!!! I've never seen tonsils so stinking big! Between them and her uvula thing there she has no opening in her throat, none!!! I swear they are what is causing her to gag all the time and cough and just feel yucky!!! So, here's hoping she'll be a good sport about it all cuz she's a kid that can't even stand to get her finger nails trimmed never mind a body part cut out!!!
Raining here, but it's suppose to turn to snow by tomorrow. Kind of wanting to see the snow, kind of!
Posted by tracey at 07:15 PM | Comments (1)
November 14, 2005
My Youth
A smokey room
dark yet alive
with hot sweatiness
the smell of a long day.
Music, the band,
spotlight on you
dancing, kissing
laughing, the fun of it all.
Outside it is cold
the air is brisk
it wakes you
shivering inside.
Friends are near
a cigarette glowing
you smile
beautiful brown eyes.
Posted by tracey at 08:12 PM | Comments (0)
November 12, 2005
Distant, yet memorable
Leaves, colorful and dry...crunchy
piled high for jumping into
laughing, singing, fun.
A white barn, old and so big
beams that climbed to the rafters
horses needing to be fed, watered, petted.
A daily chore...
I recall with such fondness
the leaves, the barn, the fields we played in.
While tending to the things
we needed to, as children
while at play.
Posted by tracey at 07:49 PM | Comments (0)
November 11, 2005
What is it
that I am in need of???
I am not sure. I've been busy, work, kids, hubby, life in general. Trying to get more active, lose more weight and all that fun stuff! UGH!!!!
We have really been enjoying our new indoor rec center. I especially have enjoyed the pool and walking track. It's nice to walk indoors without having to deal with the elements, which, in these parts, are starting to change, quite dramatically.
I had my snow tires put on today, Andy's new heavier coat arrived and some more Christmas gifts. I've ordered a lot on line this year. I do want to get to the shopping malls though, at least one time before Christmas arrives.
I have also been working on my Christmas card list too! My dear friend Kim tells me I'm WAY too organized!!! A bit compulsive maybe?? Maybe she is right! But, I do enjoy the season.
Poor Kim, she has NO time!!! Two little ones under the age of 3 and then a 12 year old that gives her a run for her money everyday! I do NOT envy her one bit!!
Had some snow today, just flurries but the air sure is brisk! The skies are overcast and gray and I know the big flakes will be here before we know it!
It's Veteran's Day today and I just finished a book titled, "THOSE WHO SAVE US." by Jenna Blum. An Excellent read for anyone interested in the Holocaust.
So, I guess that is all for an update here. I'm trying to get more creative with my posts, I think that is what I am need of!!! Let me see what I can do!
Posted by tracey at 09:01 PM | Comments (1)
November 09, 2005
The Holidays
As Thanksgiving and Christmas approach, I begin to feel a bit nostalgic, thinking back to my childhood, remembering friends and family past and present. It often makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside and sometimes, a bit sad.
I think back to places I've lived, times I have shared the times I now have with my own family and so treasure.
It snowed a bit today, began while I was driving Devon home from school, by the way, she made the honor roll this quarter! She kept telling me if she didn't take French her grades would improve, and well, b'gosh they did!! All A's and B's! Very proud of her and hope she can keep it up.
We are enjoying our indoor rec center and it was well worth what we got our three month membership for. Hannah especially enjoys it and I think it's helping her weight some.
I'm wondering if it will snow a lot tomorrow. My last day of work before a three day weekend, which I plan to spend at home, resting, reading and just enjoying my family!
Posted by tracey at 05:10 PM | Comments (0)
November 05, 2005
"So Come With Me,
where dreams are born, and time is never planned.
Just think of happy things, and your heart will fly on wings, forever, in Never Never Land!"
So come with me, where time never counts, where dreams live forever and having to grow up never exists.
Wouldn't this be grand, wouldn't this be nice? To Never Land it is and that is where it is best.
"All it takes is faith and trust....oh, and something I forgot....dust."
Posted by tracey at 07:15 PM | Comments (1)